Sunday, 30 December 2012

Hilarity has ensued

Top of the morning to you, friends, and happy new year! 2013 promises to be a great new challenge and adventure!

I am learning more, each day, about my new relationship.  I am amazed that things are going as well as they are. I used to half-jokingly say, "I can't date under these conditions!" but the truth was, I haven't had this much raw material to work with in a long time. Astrologer Susan Miller wrote an article about how we had Neptune in Aquarius for 14 years; it just moved to Pisces in February 2012. Anyway, it turned matchmaking into a business and people's skills, youth, earnings, and appearance in the personal realm into currency.  She interviewed someone from a major business (like eHarmony or Match) who said that they could do so much more for their members to help them find compatible people rather than just fling hundreds of single people's profiles at them.  I tried that, and I didn't like it. It seemed so meaningless and pointless. I remember the dropoff of fun in the dating realm that I observed back in 1998.  Yes, 1998. And that's when Neptune moved into Aquarius.

Of course, my past boyfriends have fallen into a few categories: motivated at work and posting for jobs away from me, without consulting me or including me in their plans; up-front about not planning a future with me, and being some sort of hiking buddy/ dining companion; and there was, famously, that crazy one who wanted to be my economic dependent. He was the one most interested in marriage (of course).

But it's a new day and a new relationship, and now I have someone who is dependable and kind and wonderful who wants to share his future with me. Of course, we live near different oceans.  But I figure, in a way, that it's better to start out apart and figure out how to be together than go about things in the seemingly rational but totally ineffective way I dated locally before.  Besides, it's quality of time, not quantity. I'd rather be with him than go out into the dating world.

A good friend of mine from the old days, whom I saw on Christmas Eve, listened to my explanation of why I'm dating someone 3 time zones away, and said to me, "Well, you're supposed to find someone so that you don't have to date anymore." Like it was the easiest thing in the world to do. Said like a Smug Married from the Bridget Jones books. I mean, duh.

I remember reading this article about Neptune in Pisces early this year and discussing it with Diva. I know I said, "I don't believe it. Dating has sucked for me for 15 years. I can't believe it will ever do anything but keep on sucking."

So, you can imagine what a shock this is. I have to basically embrace a new reality to figure out my future with Mr. Wonderful.

It really is the end of the world!   ;)